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QOTD #54

borgech

Do you cook with your significant other? If so, how does the dynamic work? Does one of you take the lead while the other is 'sous'?

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Tim_Sutherland_52834

I make the mess and my wife cleans it. Is that cooking together?

FrankM_3301

I am generally the cook. My wife cooks when she goes on her occasional diets or "healthy" (whatever that is) food kicks. She'll often make salads to go with meals, but we generally don't take on larger cooking projects together. She is just not interested.

DiggingDogFarm_65362

Occasionally the better-half b̶u̶r̶n̶s̶ makes toast and I scrape it...or attempts to make something else and I deal with the smoke detectors...that's the extent of our cooking "together."

: )

Brendan_Lee_56950

I'm with you on this one. I don't really like cooking with her either. Cleaning makes up for it.

seijoed

That's our arrangement too.

andrewrbeck

I find it very hard to be in the kitchen at the same time. It's a small kitchen and we bump into each other more than help. When we cook together, it's usually only when I get all the mise en place prepped for her and then get out of the way. Or when I'm cooking outside (on the grill or smoker) and she stays inside prepping ingredients and/or cooking sides.

tshewman

Can I take the 5th? :-) Yes, one of us generally takes the lead and the others is sous (and often it ends up the other is "sans"....

Since there are generally two different levels of commitment toward cooking, there are often times where things get out of sync. One prefers to prepare in advance, clean as they go etc.....the other prefers just to get things ready.......ala minut and throw everything into the sinks (both sinks). When asked the more dedicated cook helps and tries to guide and the other seems overwhelmed at times with the possible precision (e.g. weigh the ingredients). When there is a bit more time and the meal is smaller in tasks, things fall into place when working together. Still there is an involuntary hierarchy regardless of who's "turn" it is to make dinner.

Matthew_Snyder_68770

I'm not saying anything, but if you can work out an arrangement whereby you do all the cooking and kitchen work and your wife does absolutely everything else....... that's not a bad deal.

Edit to add: My wife is a terrible cook and hates cooking. Hates the whole process of it. Every winter she makes a batch of chili (which, interestingly, is actually quite good), and that's the extent of her kitchen adventures.

Uri_67904

The kitchen is my wife's domain. When she's around, she's in charge. When she's not. I am the master of my own domain

coleleighw

i do 90%, she's cleans when i good. she sticks to the basics pancakes and sous vide eggs and bacon

nick.pmallon

My wife and I met at culinary school so right away there's "too many chefs in the kitchen."

I stayed in the industry while she went to the catering sales side so now she tries to sneak into the kitchen to "help" me cook when we're home. And by "help" i mean try and show me if I'm doing something wrong, or when it comes to sous vide and newer techniques, she'll just watch and ask lots of questions which incur make my dish take that much longer to prepare.

Now, thank goodness our 2 year old distracts her enough that I can whip up whatever i need to while they play.

anthony_34093

I'm in this boat as well. Wife hasn't cooked a meal in 5.5 years of marriage. I quite like it that way.

Matthew_Snyder_68770

We just celebrated our 10th year together, and I got her a sort of comic book highlighting all of the fun times we've had. One of the panels was "That time you cooked me dinner. In 2005." Chicken marsala, remember it well. Betty Crocker recipe.

Luke_Beacon_122481

Sometimes I cook for her, sometimes she cooks for me. I am Australian and she is Taiwanese, so we have a good mix of different recipes.
Generally, the person who does the cooking doesn't need to do the cleaning. But I generally clean as I go out of habit.

e_lancaster2002

I'm the cook 4 nights out of 7, because I'm the at-home parent and he finishes work at a different time each day (sometimes 4:00, sometimes 10:00. We never know what it will be.). The nights he cooks he's in charge, but if we both try to be in there together it becomes an epic battle of wills -- we are both first-borns.

brookejambor_93920

50/50. We've both cooked professionally and generally cook pretty simply at home, but like to collaborate on meals and divvy up projects between the two of us. I'll cook whatever he wants on his birthday and vice versa, and then we'll invite all of our friends over for a dinner party. He's also usually the designated brunch cook whereas I am more likely to have some ferment or baking project going on my own. It also helps that we both like each other's food (and each other)!